I think one of the most fearful things is a person who knows how to push your buttons. Someone who knows what and when to say something that gets you in a high rage.
On the other hand, it's kind of pathetic too, isn't it? If that's how they get their power fix, or self-satisfaction: well, that's what I call a damn loser.
Look, at least be aware when someone's pushing your buttons. You can fall for it once: never again. We can let people manipulate our promotions and pay and whatnot; don't let them manipulate your feelings and self-esteem. If someone wants to piss you off, recognize it two steps back, and smile because you know exactly what they're doing. Tell them they're funny, and get on with life. Don't let them get to you. Not only because you want to deny giving them power—and that's what you're doing when you give them the power to make you angry—but also because life is too short, really too short to spend upset by an idiot's words and actions.
You can't take those angry minutes back. And that's so mottainai (もったいない). Such a waste.
Sungha Jung - carrying you (from Laputa: Castle in the Sky)